A review of “The Talk” by Luke Gilkerson found through a pin from the blog, Intoxicated on Life.
The first thing you discover about this lesson guide is that there are corresponding videos for each lesson. The first is a short two and half minute science film with a 3d walk through of the female internal organs to demonstrate ovulation. The remaining videos are more of the same. On this resource page you will also find a thorough list of reading material.
This lesson group is intended for elementary aged children, age 6-10. From the author’s viewpoint it is never too soon to discuss sex and that often “we speak too little too late.” He believes that children are sexual creatures and are not tainted by early talk of procreation. He furthers his argument by saying that if we don’t teach our children the world will. He encourages the correct names for body parts, biblical study and correct modeling of God’s will in our relationships. He ends his introduction with the warning, “When your child has grown up, his or her sexual relationships can bring a deep sense of brokenness and shame or incredible blessing.”
Lesson 1 is a introduction to the male and female anatomy. The pictures though scientific are graphic, clearly showing the look of the male body while being more general in the female cutaway. He uses the Genesis Creation story as his scripture for this lesson. Focusing on “male and female He made them.”
Lesson 2 focuses on God’s command to man to “go forth and multiply.” This lesson is the detailed explanation of sexual intercourse. There are no pictures of intercourse, just fertilization of the egg.
Lesson 3 this lesson describes pregnancy and development of the baby and vaginal birth. It uses Psalms 139:13-18 to describe God’s hand in the formation of the child.
Lesson 4 discusses the powerful bond created when two people have sex. This is where the author introduces sex should only be had in a marriage relationship.
Lesson 5 focuses on adultery. Listing Exodus 20 as the scripture reference he focuses on the ten commandments. Describing adultery as akin to stealing something.
Lesson 6 based on 2 Samuel 13:1-2, 6-14 discusses rape. This is where the author introduces abuse and what to do if the child find themselves in this position.
Lesson 7 based on 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 he ties in the idea that our bodies are a gift from God and that we should only use those bodies for His will.
Each lesson is written as a script or read-a-loud. They began with a review and each follows with talking points to aid discussion and a question and answer for the lesson.
In closing he gives ideas for keeping these lessons fresh in the mind of the child “For example, when Abraham and Hagar conceive Ishmael (Genesis 16), you can ask your child if they remember what sexual intercourse is and why adultery is wrong.” Also using tv shows and teachable moments as necessary. He gives apt warnings on internet filtering and educating a child to filter the world for themselves.
Perhaps I am old fashioned or I have studied modesty under Judaism for too long, but I was shocked by how blatant this study was. The author had a plan to teach sex-ed and merely used the Bible as a back drop for it. I didn’t see any biblical defense for this education, or for its necessity. Saying that we must give this education because there is no way to insulate our children from the filth of the world was unfounded.
His teachable moment of Hagar and Abraham described as adultery is at least an ignorance of the Semitic culture. The most pertinent scripture he quoted Proverbs 6:20-22 he gave only a passing glance.
This passage in Proverbs is in essence the V’ahavta, Deuteronomy 6:6 These words, which I am ordering you today, are to be on your heart; 7 and you are to teach them carefully to your children. You are to talk about them when you sit at home, when you are traveling on the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Tie them on your hand as a sign, put them at the front of a headband around your forehead.
The way to avoid the lure of lust is to study and keep Torah.