You’re swimming in a cesspool

One of the Rabbi’s my husband listens to told this story:

Two men went out to soak in the mudflats. They arrive slip into the soothing mud when one man realizes it’s a cesspool. You know sewage? He jumps out runs for the showers, scrubs, scrubs again and vows not to eat for weeks he is thoroughly disgusted with himself, with the pool, he remembers his friend.

Holding his nose he goes back and is shocked to find him still luxuriating in the cesspool. He calls out,”You’re swimming in a cesspool! Get out!”

The man looks lazily towards his friend and says, “I know it’s so good for your skin though and the muscles in my back have never felt so good.

“But you are swimming in a cesspool. It’s foul and disgusting and you are bound to get sick maybe even die!” He’s incredulous that his friend would choose to stay in such filth and so he walks away.

Maybe I didn’t tell it exactly but this is the point: Anything that is not of God is filth.

Let me repeat anything that is not of God is filth.

Are you swimming in a cesspool? Saying things like but God understands, the pay is so good, their are no other options, etc.

Are you sending your children off to a cesspool? Justifying it by, it’s a good education, they need the exercise, I want them to have the opportunities that I did, etc. Don’t be surprised if they hang out with little sh*ts or worse yet become one.

How do you know if you are in the cesspool?

Study. He wrote it all down for us. The Torah is a handbook for interacting with God and man. Does your life line up with the Scriptures or with the dime store novel the world is peddling?

Pray. Ask Him should I be doing this, is this your plan or mine, am I out of Your will. Listen to His response. Knowing you shouldn’t do something is only step one. You must get out of the cesspool! You must rescue your children! You must rinse off the filth and live righteously.

We are to live set apart lives and be a peculiar people. If your life, if your family¬†looks just like everyone else out there, you gotta ask yourself, “Am I swimming in a cesspool?”

Living it

We have been attending a new congregation for about a month or so and a lady asked my husband if he was living out the things that he had been learning in Breslov.

His answer was ask my wife. So I am answering because a huge change has taken place in our marriage, in our home, in our dealings with each other and with our children.

First let’s start with some Torah. The first commandment is, “Be fruitful and multiply.” This means get married. There is an idea in Judaism that a man cannot achieve his life goals without marriage. That his wife is his neshama, that all blessing will come to him through her merit and that he cannot achieve his tikkun, his world connection, without her. So marriage is very important and many chassidim marry very young.

All that to say this, that marriage is not about, “Oh I love her!” But it is about fulfilling commandments and growing closer to Hashem and learning to love the woman He has provided.

We have been married almost 18 years. This past year has been one of the sweetest, the best maybe. Bobby discovered the Breslov teachings, because he is a student. Always searching and learning and searching. He mentioned one day this 10 commandments for husbands and that he should behave such and such a way. I was intrigued. After I had read it I said, “I love the Breslovers!” We ordered a few books and began studying how to be better. The family motto is when you know better you do better.

He became a better husband, friend, father and man. Not magically. You can’t read these teachings and listen to these shuirs and do nothing. You must be willing to change. He was. I was. We have become a much better couple, focused on bringing Shalom into our home. To answer does Bobby live this way, I would answer in one word, yes.

A great day of nothing

We had a great day of nothing…tv watched, video games played…but just a lazy day. very nice. We are getting back to school work tomorrow, it feels good to be anticipating fall!

Rosh Hashana

So next Sunday night is Erev Rosh Hashana..the New Year, the Feast of Trumpets, the Day of Remembrance. The beginning of the Days of Awe and the High Holy Days.

This year we will be going slow and scaled back on the celebrations. We will have a Rosh Hashana Seder, has a great printable to start with. After that we will have a nice meal, read the Akeda and go to shul some where.

I think the important thing is to do something that is meaningful for your family, the age of your children and for your understanding. Don’t try to make your Rosh Hashana look like everyone else’s try to make yours meaningful.